Power of Perspective

The following is written by guest blogger, Gwendolyn Fiola. This is an outlet for individuals who would like to share their stories, in the hope that others will connect and find support. If you have a story you’d like to share, please message us on Facebook or email us at bianca@momof11kids.com.

I love the phrase, “Do you see the glass half empty, or the glass half full?” If I could ask everyone this question, I feel like it would tell me a lot about about them. There are two types of people in this world: the positive and the negative.

I think as a wife, mother, friend we have the choice to be a positive force or a negative force. Our conversations can be about the negative things or the fun positive things. Do I want dates with my girlfriends or my husband to be about all the negative things I see or all the wonderful things I see going on in my world.

I have seen with my friends raising their babies that perception is everything. Some complain about the “terrible twos” while other positive moms call it a “busy stage”. These positive moms brag about all the fun milestone instead of all the tantrums.

As a wife, mother, friend, and daughter, what type of person do you want to be? Do you want to be that happy light or the negative Nellie? Do you want to be an encourager or a discouraged? How do people feel after a brunch date with you?

The easiest way for myself to get rid of negative thoughts is to replace them with a positive one. Instead of being annoyed that my husband left the dishes out, I can celebrate him for picking up groceries on the way home.

My goal in life is that everyone who comes in contact with us feels good about themselves. I want people to be inspired by who I am and what I want. I want people to see my marriage and be inspired. All these things I inspire for will take hard work to accomplish but this is what we strive for. It takes time, reading, and growth.

On your hardest day, this will be the biggest challenge. It’s constantly my biggest challenge. The more I work on it, the easier it becomes. Trust me – the more you do it, the easier it is.

My life is guided by my perspective. As hard as it is as a person with babies, marriage issues or health problems, just try it for one month and I swear… your marriage, motherhood, and relationship with you partner will be completely different!


About Gwendolyn:


Gwendolyn Fiola (@life_love_and_lavender_blog) has a passion for people, healthy relationships, and marriages. Gwen also has a deep love for informing and empowering people about mental health awareness and the stigmas attached.

In her downtime she enjoys having adventures with her husband Rob, writing, modeling, and volunteering at her local church. Visit her blog at gwendolynfiola.wordpress.com or find her on twitter.

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